Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Saying goodbye to a friend.....

     Blogging is about life, the ups and downs and backwards and, hopefully, the moving forward too. Sometimes blogging can be a bit of a diary of one's life, the one your nosy little brother reads (or in my case, family I don't speak with). That's what makes blogging real. No baking project ever turns out perfectly, no garden yields perfect results. Blogs tell the truth, which isn't always joyous and pretty.

     Today I lost a very good friend. I first met Karen nearly seven years ago through our mutual love of vintage and freecycle. Karen and I were both often purging our overloaded houses on the freecycle network which often meant snapping up each other's finds. What started as arranged pick up times and trading ended up being conversations over tea and a friendship that remained even when she moved off the mountain and distance was put between us.

     The really great friendships, those of mutual understanding and affection, do survive distance and time constraints. This friendship was still going strong. You may remember that recently I had watched my good friend Karen's quirky little Mutt Betty White. Today, I am facing the silence of a life too short. Karen is gone and with her I feel a hole in my chest. I've cried a lot, spent some time in bed because I simply couldn't think what else to do. Even now between sentences I find myself staring out the window at nothing at all and remembering Karen's smile and insanely good sense of humor.

     It's hard to write a post like this, and even harder to end it. So, I'll leave you with this quote which says it better than I could....

"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile." unknown

8 comments:

  1. I am so sorry, my thoughts are with you. Having lost too many people in the last few years, your quote is perfect and true. Honor the spirit and lives of those that are gone, but enjoy the time you have with those that are still here.

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  2. That's so sad Alexis. I can't imagine there is any way to replace a good friend who's life was cut short. My prayers are with you and Karen's family.

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  3. Hello Alexis,
    I am so sorry for your deep heartfelt loss of your friend. We are all so lucky to have or had amazing people in our lives to sharing life's special moments. I am sending you a big virtual hug.
    Smiles, Paula

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  4. I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost several good friends and I know it is very difficult. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Laura

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  5. Alexis -
    Thinking of you and Karen's family. So sorry for the loss of someone so dear to you. Praying for all.
    - Michelle F.

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  6. My Internet Friend,

    I completely understand. Someone said, "We've reached the age where life stops giving to us and starts taking things away." I'm not sure that's the case, but it sure feels that way when you start burying friends instead of grandparents and other "old people."

    I have also lost friends this year, and I feel for your loss. Our prayers are with you.

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  7. Alexis,

    Healing thoughts are sent your way. May all the Love in your life support you through your sad time.

    When I'm sad or lonely, one of my "bubble bath" cures is to sit in my chicken pen and commune with my "pretties". Somehow, those direct chicken "stares", reach my soul and bring me moments of perfection.

    You were blessed to have Karen in your life.

    I'm glad to have found your blog. Thanks for sharing.

    Danielle

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Thank you so much for your comments!