The part of motherhood I want to focus on is being the mom I always wish I'd had. I want to listen more, with genuine interest. I want to play more, be goofy and make my son laugh. I want to eat every meal with my son as the conversations at the table are priceless! Those seem like simple goals but they aren't always that simple. Life has a way of pulling, pushing and tugging us in many different directions at one time. If the cell phone chimes many of us feel compelled to check our messages. Tweets and facebook status updates become, sadly, just as much fun to type as the actual event experienced. We live in sad times, but I'm trying to slow things down.
Quitting facebook about a year ago has been a huge blessing in our home. I no longer care who is spending time with whom, which avatar grandma uses in her profile or the green envy when a friend goes somewhere or does something I wish I were doing. It's all just so silly. Instead I've made a greater focus on actual events, my own family, my own business, my own life. I still enjoy my twitter feed, but it's far less personal. I blog, but only when my son is otherwise engaged. I'm getting more done in actuality because I'm less focused on other people's perceived realities. And still, there's more I can do. I'm taping my new goals on the fridge and on my desktop. The time to embrace with one's children is right now, today. Tomorrow they may be leaving for college!

















